I SINCERELY WANT TO HELP
While I’m walking to school I pass an older lady’s house and can’t help but notice that the garden could use some cleaning up. Would it be rude if I volunteered to help her. I don’t need money but she might think I’m a scammer?
Your intentions are wonderful, however, caution is wise. Seniors are often justifiably concerned and warned about approaches from strangers. I suggest you talk to an adult you trust, a parent and or a neighbour to get some advice before doing your good deed.
ANNOYING LATENESS
My older sister who is now in her seventies, is always late for her doctors and hair dresser appointments. I’m her driver and its embarrassing and a waste of my time. How can I get her to understand that her behaviour is not right without insulting her.
It sounds like your sisters behaviour is more of a habit. Try these tips: Call ahead with a 30 min warning. Help her set an alarm or two. Build in extra time—say 10:00 when you mean 10:15 or 10:30.
HIDING THE TRUTH NOW
Dad is lying about things since my mum, who was much younger, had left him. We’re concerned with the stories he’s giving us about eating well, getting out with friends and paying bills on time when he’s on his own. Should we leave him alone or confront him.
Being on his own is an adjustment for Dad so pick your battles. You don’t mention any harmful or really risky behaviours so I suggest you watch and wait a bit. Stay connected so you don’t alienate him. Remind him about bills if it becomes a problem. Invite him out for dinner or take meals when you can.
WHERE CAN I BUY GOOD QUALITY MOBILITY EQUIPMENT?
Some of the nicely coloured walkers that I see at big box stores don’t seem to be very good quality. Is one brand better than another? Who can I ask? It’s for my mother not me.
Good question. Ask an occupational therapist or physiotherapist for assistance. As well, be sure to visit a home health care or medical supply shop and ask for expert advice. There are quite a few variables to consider. Would a walker or a rollator be best? What is your mum’s lifestyle, her height and weight? Also her gait and ability to walk independently are considerations. Will she use the walker inside or outside? Other options include size of wheels, colour, baskets etc. Don’t just buy off the shelf at a big box store.
Ask for professional guidance.
